Active listening to solve any conflict

The active listening is one of the most important skills of a professional coach.

But this does not mean that it is not equally important to you in your day to day life.

Especially in a world where noise prevents us from being able to distinguish what is really important.

Active listening is not an innate gift or something that is cannot be improved if you don't have it.

On the contrary.

It is possible to acquire it and develop it with practice.

And especially patiently.

As its name suggests, active listening is about listening fully and consciously focused on what the other person has to say.

No judgement.

With genuine curiosity and open.

Something that you may find difficult because you have not been aware of its importance.

Doesn't it also happen to you that when someone says something to you you're thinking more about what you have what to answer?

A pattern that appears redundantly in a coaching session and that it is an example of poor communication.

Since communication does not only depend on the transmitter.

But also and especially of the receiver.

How to improve your active listening?

It is important before improving your active listening that know how you listen and the importance you give to this aspect of your communication.

Active and conscious listening also means do it with empathy.

With unconditional acceptance.

And from a place where give the space your interlocutor needs.

A must-have for every good coach.

But also a skill that should be improved in any professional area to avoid conflicts arising from poor communication.

In fact, active listening is always a very important part of the when giving and receiving feedback.

Since this facilitates the transmission and reception of the message.

To improve it, it is important that you are aware and work on certain points:

• Internal dialogueKnowing where your thoughts are when you listen without getting attached to them will allow you to listen better.
• Do not judgeJudgment and prejudice are an insurmountable barrier to active listening.
• Not thinking about an answer or a questionLet it flow when your interlocutor has finished. Understanding the message will make it come effortlessly and naturally.
• Body languagePractice listening with your body and in the body of the speaker. Our communication is mostly non-verbal and in the body is the true essence of the message.
• Use open-ended questionsMotivate your interlocutor without directing their response to a place you have previously decided.
• Use your curiosityLet this be the engine of your active listening.

Active listening in your daily life

As you improve your listeningyou will see that your life will change.

Because this way you communication will improve.

In addition to your own self-esteem and internal dialogue.

When you accept unconditionally the other's message, you are accepting you too.

Letting your opinion or your ideas are nothing more than an alternative seen from your perspective.

Something fundamental for improve your day-to-day communication and avoid those conflicts that have their origin in not listening.

Or not even be aware that it is not done.

Where are you going to improve your active listening from now on?