The unconditional generosity is a value that usually appears in a coaching process.
Especially when connects with that need of giving to others as a means of connecting with your purpose in life.
But also when generosity has become, in an unconscious way, a form of creating dependence on others.
A surprising prospect of generosity that a priori you would not imagine.
Produce a profit creating a dependency.
Although if you think about it, the relationship is obvious.
When someone gives you, you you feel indebted.
What you connect with gratitude towards the one who is generous.
More than with your intention.
Something that can create a circle of obligation where you feel the need to give because you have been given.
Without leaving space to receive because someone wanted to exercise generosity unconditional without expecting anything in return.
But that do not expect to receive also turns against its own generosity.
Since this is much more than giving to others.
The balance between giving and receiving
Surely since you were a few years old you must have heard the it is important to give to others.
We are educated in the one-way generosity of giving.
But it is less likely that such an education in giving implicitly involved the ability to receive.
And this is where Generosity can become an unbalancing act. where the giver is placed above the receiver.
A bit like with help or serve in coaching.
The one who helps usually does so in unconsciously from a better position than the one being helped.
When the thank you in return to a generous act, it is very likely that the you feel the need to do something in return.
And this is where you generosity to receive is as important or more important as it is to give to others.
In fact, if generosity is focused exclusively on giving, it can creating claustrophobic spaces where unidirectional altruism causes unbalancing debts.
Even with the best of intentions.
Applying unconditional generosity in two directions
I invite you to practice two-way generosity in your day to day life.
In your work life.
With your friends and strangers.
Preparing for be generous in giving space to receive.
From gratitude and never from the reactive debt of the one who is feels weak from generosity of others.
Because that kind of debts are difficult to pay off and create an imbalance that will lead you to break your own value system.In a coaching process we also explored this aspect together when we plays an important role when it comes to achieve your goals.
Something to do with your ability to adapt to the change that receiving from others can bring.
Without expecting it.
But also without reacting with the same impulse than the one who gives you.
That's why the unconditional generosity doesn't just say what you give and how you give it.
But especially how you receive.
And here you will find a very thin line between harmony and imbalance.
Do you already know how you are going to apply the unconditional generosity in your day to day life?